Excerpts from THE WAY TO LOVE, Anthony deMello's last meditations
"If a man wants to sue you for your shirt, let him have your coat as well. If a man in authority makes you go one mile, go with him two."
Imagine that you are in a situation or with a person that you find unpleasant and that you would ordinarily avoid. Now observe how your computer instinctively becomes active insisting that you avoid this situation or try to change it....Now keep looking at the unpleasant situation or person until your realize that it isn't they that are causing the the negative emotions....They are doing their thing....It is your computer thanks to your programming that insists on your reacting with negative emotions....Observe all of this from the outside so to speak and see the marvelous change that comes about in you. For it will have become evident to you that real oppression comes, not from people who fight you in court or from authority that subjects you to slave labor , but from your computer whose programming destroys your peace of mind the moment outside circumstances fail to conform to its demands.
"And the young man went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions."
An attachment isn't a fact. It is a belief, a fantasy in your head, acquired through programming....Getting rid of an attachment is a perfectly delightful task if the instrument you use to rid yourself of them is not willpower or renunciation but sight. All you need to do is open your eyes and see that you do not really need the object of your attachment at all; that you were programmed, brainwashed into thinking that you could not be happy or could not live without this particular person or thing.